At present time there are lively debates concerning same-sex marriages and there is no unity in society according this issue. Before discussing the necessity of legalizing gay marriages or forbidding them, it is necessary to say a few words concerning marriage in general. Thus, under the notion marriage we usually understand a union between a woman and a man. Traditional marriage is serves a cell of society and the government tends to do everything possible to promote family values, to give benefits to young people who want to get married, to support young families. It is not difficult to understand that in this way, gay marriages are rather different from heterosexual marriages.
There are numerous disputes around homosexual relations and same-sex marriages. It is possible to say that nowadays our society is divided into two camps with drastically different opinions. The most ardent and warring groups are gay and religious communities. Each of the mentioned above groups is deeply convinced in its rightness.
If we speak about ordinary people in general, it can be said that their mood is quite different. However, it can be easily noticed that the attitude to gay unions changes with the flow of time. If previously, the majority of population were against same-sex marriages, today there are more and more people, who become rather tolerant.
Of course, it is interesting to know attitude of famous people to some delicate issues. Gay marriages is not an exclusion. To some extent our leaders set the pace and shape out attitude to certain controversies. When speaking about gay marriages, it is necessary to mention Barack Obama's declaration. It is of special interest, because it shows the way his attitude evolved during a few past years. Thus, at first he was rather unsure about his position, but his attitudes changed and as a result of such evolution on May 9, 2012 the president declared that gay couples have a right to get married (National Catholic Reporter). The fact that Barack Obama changed his mind concerning the issue proves that the whole nation is evolving their opinion as well.
However, it should not be forgotten that there are such groups of people, who adhere to more conservative views and persist in their rightness. The most firm among them is of course religious community. By the way, this layer of population appears to be the most influential in their fight against legalization of same-sex marriages.
Interestingly enough, even in such stable and conservative communities, changes can be mentioned. Thus, for instance, representatives of Catholic church have become more loyal recently. For instance, one of the polls conducted in March showed that opinion of Catholics has separated. Nowadays, "overall Catholic support for same-sex marriage to be 59 percent, with 36 percent of Catholics opposed" (National Catholic Reporter). It is widely considered that Barack Obama's expression concerning gay marriages was rather influential and divided the Catholic community into opponents and proponents of such unions.
One of the most stable church organizations, which expresses negative attitude to gay marriages, is known as The Knights of Columbus. It invests huge amounts of money into a fight against same sex marriages. For example, in accordance with some reliable sources, the organization donated " almost $750,000 to groups fighting same-sex marriage measures, including a reported $722,150 to the U.S. bishops' ad hoc committee" (McElwee, Joshua J).
When speaking about general mood in American society, it becomes possible to say that from one year to another attitude to gay marriages changes and people become more loyal as well. For instance, a number of polls conducted by various survey organizations show that "public support for same-sex marriage has risen from 40 percent in 2006 to majority support today" (National Catholic Reporter).
Rather interesting opinion about same-sex marriages was expressed in the article "Wedding Bells" by Margaret Talbot. The author is convinced that gay marriages should be understood as an inevitable component of our future life. She is absolutely sure that today's debates will seem absurd with the flow of time and in several years we will understand such marriages as something ordinary. To support her idea, Margaret Talbot draws an analogy with previous decades, when many people were against interracial or interclass marriages: " Interracial couples faced stares, ostracism, discrimination in housing and employment, and a common theory that they were pathological" (Talbot, Margaret).
Despite the tendencies in our community, which can be observed today, I incline to a more conservative view and believe that there is no need to legalize gay marriages. A union of two gay people cannot be seen as a marriage, because such union contradicts with a traditional understanding of marriage and family. Marriage has always been a union of a man and a women. And such union has numerous aims, like procreation, raising children. From the ancient times people in marriage could supplement each other. From this point of view, homosexual relations undermine the whole institution of marriage.
It is impossible for the gay couple to have their own children. Therefore, legalizing such marriages, automatically means they will be allowed to adopt children. Moreover, artificial method of insemination will be popularized. Such act in turn can lead to more conflicts within society.
The whole human life is built and held on to some rules and values. Allowing gay couples to get married will mean at the same time devaluation of the traditional marriage and neglecting even the most basic moral rules.
At present time the fight against or in favor of gay marriages crossed all the boarders. It is considered that opponents of gay marriage do everything possible in order to disturb equality in society. However, it is not correct and there is no discrimination or infringement of somebody's rights.
Marriage as an institution is regulated by the government and the law. Marriages with the closest relatives, like cousins, parents and offsprings are forbidden as well. It is remarkable that mentioned above examples do not cause any protests. The same should not happen with same sex couples as well. The government and the country do care about marriage and regulate such unions, because their guarantee the future of the country and the whole mankind.
People should be interested in procreation and ensure growth and continuation of our society. That is why government gives benefits and encourages people to get married. From such point of view, gay marriages are of no interest to the government, because people, who unite themselves in the gay marriage, cannot perform the same duties as spouses in heterosexual marriage. Of course, all people have a right to be happy and spend their life with a beloved person. However, heterosexual marriage differs from homosexual by presence of much deeper components than simple romantics. Traditional marriage is a crucial component of kinship system and gay marriage cannot carry on the same obligations as heterosexual marriage.
Traditional marriage has a great power, it changes the nature of relations between men and women, it defines generations within a family, establishes rules and boundaries in society. It is more than obvious that gay marriage will never gain the same status as a traditional marriage and it will never become a unit of kinship system.
In conclusion, it should be said that support or rejection of same-sex marriages should never be seen as an act of violation of human rights. No doubts that each person has a right to be happy. However, at the same time it should never be forgotten that true marriage is "a moral and legal bond between a man and a woman" (Christianity Today). Probably one of the keys to remembering this is understanding that marriage is a much deeper notion than simply romantic relations. In a marriage everything is build around the desire to have offsprings, which cannot be carried out in frames of a gay marriage. Finally, it should be understood that such marriages is a cutting edge and if they will be allowed, then it will be considered that other boundaries can be widen as well. Thus, a lot of people express worries concerning the raise other unacceptable sexual freedoms. As it can be seen, allowing gay couples to get married is not a solution and it can only raise more problems and disagreements in society.
"More than a legal issue: the gay marriage debate shouldn't drive us to outrage or panic." Christianity Today July-Aug. 2012: 81. Academic OneFile. Web. 2 Dec. 2012.
"Polls show US views on marriage are evolving." National Catholic Reporter 25 May 2012: 5. Academic OneFile. Web. 2 Dec. 2012.
McElwee, Joshua J. "Outspoken bishops step into election fray: statements directed at catholic voters focus on abortion, same-sex marriage." National Catholic Reporter 25 Oct. 2012: 1+. General Reference Center GOLD. Web. 2 Dec. 2012.
McElwee, Joshua J. "Report tallies Knights' political efforts: fraternal organization a key contributor against same-sex marriage." National Catholic Reporter 22 Nov. 2012: 7. General Reference Center GOLD. Web. 2 Dec. 2012.
Talbot, Margaret. "Wedding Bells." The New Yorker 21 May 2012: 19. Academic OneFile. Web. 2 Dec. 2012.