In life, it is not always easy to identify oneself with a particular quality or features. Despite this fact, it is easier to count on oneself than counting on the other. This is contrary to the fact that knowing yourself is one of the toughest things in this society. However, despite the difficulty in characterizing myself, I have been able to identify pertinent features that have made me who I am. Wait a minute!! These features not only portray me as a person with positive personality but also brings out the negative side of me. This is sometimes referred to as being human. A human being is never perfect and so am I.
I believe that environmental factors that impact personality that was covered under behavioral genetics class played a big role in defining my qualities right from my childhood. For instance, as a result of gene-environment correlation, it is possible to inherit the environment associated with genes. Genes and the environment often work together to influence one’s behavior. In this case my qualities are as a result of living in a Christian environment that believes in being righteous as well as being raised up by a mother who is a perfectionist. This can also be classified as passive interaction because the parents provided both genes and a conducive environment for my development.
I am respectful, tolerant and a perfectionist. Coming from a family that is known to have had many generations of servants of God, I was technically born a Christian. In other words, Christianity is inborn. Even though some are born and later converted to being Christians and servants of God, I was conceived out of Christian parents. Therefore, these aspects of respect and tolerant came out of my parents. Regardless of whom a person is, I always treat each and every person equally. I give respect to get respect. For those who disrespect me, I show them tolerance because it is a virtue that has grown in me for long. I am also a perfectionist. I realized that I had this quality from the way I used to arrange my items right from childhood. Any discrepancy and disorganization in my items would trigger an action of disassembling everything and arranging them afresh. Perfectionism was only important to me during my childhood days. However, currently, I embrace some margins of error because it is with these mistakes that we learn.
As discussed in the evolutionary personality psychology, diversity is crucial for the viability. Since the people I interact with are characterized with different traits and behaviors, I am able to adapt to various situations. However, I do not let my friends influence me negatively to openness. I tend to change my behavioral pattern when I experience certain environmental experiences. Despite my reserved looks, I am very sociable. I enjoy making new friends each and every day. It has become the second hobby. There is nothing more appealing than having friends who spare their time to be with you. Nevertheless, making more friends increases my knowledge base. Since most of my friends are constructive, I tend to learn more from them. It is the interaction that sharpens one to be in the real world because listening to many people’s opinions brings out the experience one has never encountered. Continued interaction with many people also boosts my self-esteem. One of my greatest strengths lies with the fact that I always remain positive in whatever I indulge myself in. As a result of my positivity, I have become a competitive person.
Most of the youths in my area consider me to be their role models. Some of my guiding principles towards the achievement of my targets include Jonah’s complex as discussed in the humanism positive psychology class. Most people fail in achieving their set targets because of the fear of achievement. This implies that if an individual cannot take charge of his targets, then achieving them will be a problem. Those who fear to achieve success will end up being losers. Barriers to becoming self-actualized and failing to risk are among other qualities that I would not embrace. Therefore, facing the unknown is the next big thing. This phrase brings out the fact that one should always be ready for anything to happen. Additionally, remaining positive and objective towards such a target will help one attain them. Combining my positive and competitive nature has played a big role in making me who I am. Competitiveness comes with a great deal of sacrifices and taking risks. I set for myself high targets of which I strive to achieve. Even though some of them have become unachievable, I have achieved most of them. For instance, my first target was to be the most influential member of the society at the age of seventeen. As I approached seventeen years, I had already become an influential member among the youths hence the reason why I became the role model to many youths.
In the Five Factor Model, there is both the adaptive as well as the maladaptive variant of each of the forces. For instance, the aspect of trust Vis- a- Vis mistrust within the agreeableness domain. Even though it is beneficial to trust someone, one should not be characterized by gullibility because of trust. It is also beneficial not trust but should not result to paranoia. Additionally, self-regulation is an aspect I lack especially when provoked. I lose the ability to remain on track hence I lose focus on achieving my short term goals. Therefore, studying the theory and concepts of self helps me to adapt in my relationships with others. Nevertheless, this is usually difficult.
Just as I stated earlier on, I am not perfect and hence I am also prone to experience some negativity. The most common aspect of negativity is the fact that I am short tempered and hence I am easily angered. However, for one to anger me to that extent, then he or she would have done a grievous deed. I always try not let anger take a better part of me because I tend to be very destructive. Once I stop trusting one, I never stop making his or her life a living hell. I tend to have negative attitude towards those people who enjoy making my close friends suffer. The achievements that I have attained in the course of my life have made me to be proud. I derive pride in what I attained as a result of my hard work. Even though most people will categorize this feature as a weakness, it is a strength on my part. This is because it is the pride that drives me to work even harder. I am also argumentative. I tend to argue my way out of a situation regardless of whether the second or third party is correct or wrong. Therefore, this acts as an intimidation to those persons and thus making them uncomfortable with me.
Conclusively, as I go through this sketch, I am in a position to identify how complex my personality is. However, this is who I am and hence I cannot change this personality. A personality is something that is hard to alter. It is only the new experiences in life that might shape our lives hence there is a likelihood that particular features will change through the years. Therefore, I am who I am because of the above features.