Thank you for opening this email, please put aside the text books stacked against your keyboards because what I want to say, while not easy for me and might make some of you feel bad, I hope this will be ultimately constructive.
Our sorority is thought of, in case you were not aware, as the sorority of socially awkward girls. The reason we have a week to socialize with Sigma Nu is to socialize with Sigma Nu. If the majority of sisters are just going to talk to each other during this week, then why even have it in the first place? It’s a good question that I hope all of you think about.
A university is a place where people go to grow, and it’s not just about what takes place in the classroom. It is about growing as an individual, both in conversational ability, and confidence. I seriously doubt that your other sorority sisters who you get to see everyday are so much more interesting than a frat of cute boys. Come on girls, let’s get it together and start putting ourselves outside of our comfort zone. Trust me, it’s healthy. So far, I have observed that we are failing right now at doing this.
Not to name names, but to those who talked in front of other sisters about programing at a different frat: do you have no situational awareness. Thee is nothing wrong with talking about that, but it’s like talking about a date you have on Wednesday night with the date that you have on Tuesday.
Luckily though, we can all learn from our mistakes and we still have a chance to redeem ourselves at tonight’s event. Perhaps think about the event from the future looking back. Do you want to feel that you were gracias guests who were engaging conversationalists or do you want to be remembered as the boring awkward sorority girls?
I remind you that I do not mean this as a criticism, simply I want to make you aware of my impression of your overall showing up, and most of you were either feeling shy or being rude. The guys have been very gracious toward us so I don’t think it’s a matter of you girls not liking them.
I remember what it was like to be a freshman or sophomore and feeling awkward about being in new situations and so all of that is normal. However, what is not okay is recognizing a weakness and then choosing to do nothing about it. See this not as a criticism but as an opportunity. If any of you have any concerns or if you disagree with any of the things that I am saying, please feel free to respond to me personally or by email.
I am not meaning to come across as better than any of you, just remember that as a senior I have been around the block a few times and with age comes a bit of, I daresay, wisdom. Please do not simply brush off my words as your older, crankier sister but really realize that I have your best interests at heart and also I want to maintain a positive reputation of our sorority. Thank you for listening to what I have to say to you.