Infants and young children get emotionally attached to their parents or caregivers, at least this can be said about all children. There is some kind of feelings and attitudes that they develop towards the people they first get accustomed to from the moment they are born. Having this kind of perspective, it means that this is a natural thing to happen. Just like all these children, I can attest to that fact. In my memory lie some experiences from my childhood that confirm this fact. There were times when I felt like I belonged and was loved and pampered so much yet there were others when I felt distant from my parents more especially after being reprimanded for some wrong doing. This nit withstanding, I have very fond memories of my times as a child more so the love and affection that I received from members of our household more so, my parents. I believe that I was securely attached to them.
I am made to believe that I was securely attached to them by the mere fact that I felt a natural psychological, emotional and physical connectedness to them. I have come to this conclusion because after careful analysis of my childhood experiences more especially after securing an injury after play, my mother could always be by my side to comfort me. My father was no exception because he was always close by whenever we were out away from home. My parents always reassured me of their love for me almost all the time. I grew up trusting them with everything and anything to such an extent that I knew them to be the most understanding people in the world. Whenever my mother could leave home and leave me behind, I could be distressed and my spirits could go up whenever she could come back. Any moment shared away from them was torturous to me.
I believe I developed confidence and felt loved by my parents. I also believe that I have grown to be an understanding and loving person who always takes concern of my friends and people who are close by thanks to the kind of life I led as a child. My parents also taught me that caring for others was rewarding. I believe this kind of upbringing, emotional and psychological attachment that I got with them will be reflected in the kind of parent that I am going to be in future. I have tested and known the value of a child always feeling secure when a parent is caring, loving and affectionate with their children. It is no doubt that the kind of bond and attachment that will exist between my children and I will be a total replica of what my parents and I had. I would always look for my mom when she was not around.
I could always look forward to my mother coming back and the moment she stepped back into the house, I could be the happiest of our household. I always dreaded those days that she could take so long away from home. I can vividly remember the big hugs that I could give them when they could come back. My mother could carry me and hold me close. My father could toss me in the air and tell me that he loved me. That is the kind of parent that I want to be to my children: a good parent who will always be there for their children. I will make a loving parent who will give their children an opportunity to feel happy and secure around me.
Cook, Joan L. Child Development: Principles and Perspectives (2nd Edition). Upper Saddle River: Pearson. 2009