This report has been written by Name of Student of Class of Student of Name of College
The three romantic attachment styles; the secure, avoidant and anxious/ambivalent style describe the nature of human in their love for others. Out of the three styles, my personality exactly matches with the Anxious/ambivalent romantic attachment style as I find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like. I often worry that my partner does not love me or will not want to stay with me. I want to merge completely with another person, and this desire sometimes scares people away. It appears the writer of the book knew me, and he writes a book describing me complete.
The anxious/ambivalent romantic attachment style best describes me as I always love my partner to my maximum capacity, and I feel that I am not getting an equal response from him. I am not sure of his love for me, and I am afraid he will leave me. When I love someone, I want to merge myself with my partner with no distance between us and this scares him away from me.
It is due to my nature that I lost my one very good partner who became afraid of my too much love for him and more so with my possessiveness for him. My habit of continuously calling him and trying to monitor his activities took him away from me. That gives me a continuous pain every time I think that I lost him due to my own childishness and immature behavior. I feel my current partner has also started feeling the same about my possessiveness and my fear that he will leave me. This scares hell out of me when I think of him leaving me, and I try to love him more and more.
My nature has affected my non-romantic relationship too, due to the reason that I am always lost in the fantasy of being with my partner and think nothing other than him. It affects my routine and non-romantic relationship, and people don’t like when they find me continuously mentally absent and not fully attentive toward when they want my attention.
My romantic attachment style is not similar to my parents. My parent did not care much about me, and they left me at my own most of the times; reason being I was too much responsible about my studies and good in my behavior.
My style is different from my parents because I am a different person. All the children of one family do not follow the styles of their parents. As an adult, its own style and own thinking that makes you what you are. So not the experiences changed my style from my parents but it was myself who developed this way.
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