One of the misfortunes of crimes is the violence that children suffered. There are many rules that Americas has. These rules extended to the children as. The resources to support children are significant. These agencies need to have the proper tools to provide the children with the correct and safe foundation to help them through their situation. Not all abused children are taken away from their home. Countless times, it goes unnoticed. Verbal is part of abuse. Children from the ages of newborn and fourteen are important.
These are there developing years. They are like sponges. They soak up everything from their environments. When these children witness the sounds and sights of daddy beating mom, mom or dad being a drug addict and doing illegal acts to get their addictions with their kids present and no care if the kids are there. It will surprise and make people stomach turn on what parents that are drunks or addicts or have problems with both, will because of their children. Sadly to understand this, a true story. This story is from of one the support groups on the Internet and they wish to remain anonymous.
She had to have her drugs. She would call her drug dealers to her house with her kids there. She would perform sexual acts on the drug dealers in another room. The oldest daughter who is fourteen has been witness this since she was a busy. That daughter now has nightmares like a solider coming home from war. Her social skills are way unorganized. Her self-esteem is shot. The mother states she is getting better. She is not getting any professional advice. Veterans domestic abuse survivors with or without kids know that without get help, she can easy fall back into the trap. That brings these rudimentary questions. Who are the ones that suffered the most? Her children, especially her oldest daughter? Can you image if this roller coaster keeps continue until this child turn 18, the severe effect it can have on her?
There are some children from newborn to fourteen that grow up in a nightmare of horrors and remain vigilant and never touch drugs or alcohol. That is fearless. For veterans, domestic abuse survivors know that when a person is feeling low, the drugs or alcoholic can be like the Devil.
These stories being shared are not to be of cruelty. It is done to show how the violence in the home affects children from newborn to fourteen. This brings to another story. This is from the same survivor group, and this woman wishes for her identity to be silent as well.
Her boyfriend had a severe drug problem. She was too stupid in love and common sense to see the truth. He started beating her like crazy. He forced her to have sex. He did whatever sexual needs with man or women, to get his drugs. While the baby was still in the womb, the baby never manages to see life. The baby was so close to being a born. The monster father destroys that life.
There is another story from the same group. Again, this woman wants to remain silent as well. She had a few kids. She was married; to a guy that she learned the hard way was a narcissist. One of her children the oldest boy started mimicking his father behavior. He began beating and using profanity at children at school. He has grown up but sadly he is bad seed. Despite all the discipline, it goes to waste for he remains in his father’s footsteps. The woman states that she believes that this will change. That he will eventually grow out of it. Veteran domestic abuse survivors know the truth.
More than likely will not develop it, he will probably be in juvenile as teenager and jail like father as an adult. The veteran domestic abuse survivors know that if this son is not separated from his destructive father, his life has a high change of going in the wrong path.
These different paths or stories, however, a person wants to called them, is again, to help embraced the effects of violence with children 0 to 14. Most of these kids that had a horror life turn out to be bad adults in the forms of being sinister criminal, child abusers like their parents, and other destructive habits.
The effect of the violence of children is critical because the children are our future. Plus there is the need to keep our society safe. It is a tangle of web when dealing with children from haunted past that are now adults and are hurting other people. Sadly as we feel for them, we have to remember they choose this path.
That is one of the key principles of surviving an ordeal likes that. A person must remember that they can be unhappy and doing the wrong acts. A person must choice that they want a better life. This is where society comes in. As long as we continue vigilant with alerting public about dangers of child abuse, youth crimes, we can slowly make a difference. “Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.” ― Martin Luther King Jr., A Testament of Hope: The Essential Writings and Speeches