When a person says something and it is not what the other hears is a typical miscommunication. It happens to all, we say something, and it is misunderstood or taken out of context, the person hearing it suddenly becomes exasperated. They respond about it without thinking deeply and everything left with big problem or drama. It really happens anywhere, at work, at school, and at home. It also happens in marriages and different relationships almost every lifestyle. The issue or problem is not an issue until somebody will respond. The response stimulates the fire and blends it up until everything is build up that nobody knows who they are irritated at, why they were irritated, or why it even mattered in the first place.
Through my personal experienced, seeing my parents together, I felt that they really know each other better more than anyone else and they never been strangers even a single moment in their married life. For me, they are best of friends at the same time. Close – communication bias, I would like to point out this matter, as my own view and from my further understanding of the resources, I read. Even though friends know, better what the matter is all about than strangers do; still that person may not know what is really expected by someone. In order to have a successful communication, communicators must recognize every person has different perspectives that a person may not know what it really means . The said perspective requires efforts both in time and in thinking that renders most adults to experience egocentric biases leading to miscommunication.
The statement from a wife, “It is getting hot in here,” is an obvious request for her husband. People are prone to consider the perspectives of others in communicating with close acquaintances than strangers; it also affects the perceived communication against actual communication in terms of success. Egocentrism usually occurs among strangers, the lack of information about the perspective of the stranger; a person relies on one’s own perspective availability. However, communication with friends are more prone to egocentrism compare to strangers due to the fact that people are relax on their perspective efforts during communicating with their friends; friends often similar to or even included in itself. People utilized their beliefs and thoughts as a standard the moment they take the perspective of a friend.
For example, the scenario I had with my cousin that caused a serious miscommunication when we had this phone conversation. It was Monday, we had this conversation concerning when I am going to visit her. Actually, she expected me to arrive a day before she called me. The fact that she sent me money for my fare ,so I felt guilty about it and I told her that I will be coming tomorrow morning. Added to my statement, I told her not to worry about my delay since the money she gave me is still intact and I did not spend it. She just sighed, said nothing, and hanged up. I thought that everything was fine so I did not bother her until I arrived the day I promised to come; she did not welcome me the way she used to do every time we see each other.
People communicate for different reasons. Through communication, we share meaning and connection with others. Sometimes we are not aware that we try to achieve specific purposes the moment we communicate. However, people try to meet their needs and to influence the world all the way through getting in touch with others. Communication takes place affects the expectations of a person and the meaning of what the person said with concerned to an individual behavior as well. Communication is purposeful, people communicates for a reason though sometimes people do it unconsciously. The main intention of an interaction with other people like close acquaintances or friends is to meet every needs and to have influence on the world positively.
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