In our daily lives, we encounter challenging circumstances, and grief following the loss of a loved one is amongst the toughest of them all. Such circumstances force us to cope with different difficulties, cope with change, as well as engineer a sense of self-resilience (Winokuer & Harris, 2012, p.1). Despite developing self-resilience, still we encounter moments where our resilience is put to test, and we may be overwhelmed (Winokuer & Harris, 2012, p. 1).
During such moments, it is necessary to seek help. However, in order to progress successfully in the counseling process, it is paramount to accept the loss at hand. Accepting the loss of a loved one and that death is inevitable makes a solid foundation for a successful therapeutic process.
I lost my dearest grandmother at the age of 12, and I recall it was one of my most difficult moments in my life. My grandmother was my favorite. She was always there for me in every stage of my life. She was my confidant and mentor. Most of the times, she was the only one who could understand me, and she never shied to offer a shoulder for me to lean on. Our relationship was very strong may be because she acted as my nanny when my parents had gone to work. Unfortunately, we lost her to hypertension.
Losing my grandmother was a great setback. I was the most affected. However, my parents, cousins and close friends played a vital role in helping me withstand that lose. I never thought that I would put behind that loss, but the support of my family and close friends helped me stand on my feet. I recall that my cousins and friends took me out on several occasions where we spent time outdoors, playing or taking part in extra-curricular activities. In addition, my mum and dad gave me exceptional moral and psychological support. With time, I gradually accepted the loss and got over it; I’m glad that experience made me stronger than before.
Winokuer, H. & Harris, D. (2012). Principles and Practice of Grief Counseling. New York: Springer Publishing Company.