It is believed that in all other types of relationships, the most profound is one with your child. Finding ways through which a good relationship can be established between the parent and the child calls for some detective skill especially if you have more than one kid. It is worth noting that attitudes and values that a child adopts toward the parent do not come within a day rather it takes time (McCue, pg 95). It therefore occurs that there are some factors that influence the child either directly or indirectly which affects even their development as a result. The rationale of this paper is to critically analyse and evaluate different factors that can influence a Childs attitude towards the parents. The paper shall analyse factors such as peer power, education as well as school based mentoring.
Every parent has a feeling of what it is to be young and the kind of influence peers have one from the time a child is a toddler and participating in play games. There are several peer pressures that affect the relationship between the child and the parent. Among the peer pressure that have impact on the parent child relationship comes from friend especially from school where the peers want to dress like the other so that they can be accepted by the crowds (Hirst, pg 125).
The children accept that peer affect their lives in that they claim to be nice to them though the make them do things that they would not engage in if they were on their own. The children want to feel part of a given group of friend such that they feel pressured to make their friends happy even if it means doing the wrong thing. Children have learnt to develop certain attitudes from their friend because when they are not okay they too are not okay. This in the long run ends up making their relationship with their parent affected in the negative sense.
The kind of education that children get determines the kind of relationship they develop towards their parents. The kind of education that have been advocated for as the best for the children such that their relationship with their parent can improve for the better is one a child has a mentor and she or he becomes the mentee (Taylor, pg 213). The mentor ensures that a balance is achieved between school work and the social environment where they engage freely during school time especially during time and also in the evening.
The mentee and the mentor engage in a number of activities for instance talking, tasks that are associated to academic work for instance carrying out their home work as well as reading, playing games. The education involves mentor and mentee engaging in pre-match screening orientation as well as training.
Several other strategies with regard to education that have been proved to have a great impact with regard to improving the relationship between parents and children is parent involvement in the academic activities of the children. Parent and especially the fathers are advised to walk with their children in their academic work by helping out. The fathers should act as role model for the children by themselves engaging in reading activities which will encourage the children to read.
The parent should also make a point of visiting the library especially with their children so that they can learn the culture of reading which not only improve their relationship with the parents but also helps them in improving their academics The parents should also establish a daily routine for their children where they should create time for house chores, homework and all the other activities that the children are required to take part in (McCue, pg 85). They should the amount of time used while watching the TV especially on school days.
In conclusion, we find that the relationship between a parent and the children can be affected by several factors including the peer power which in most cases originate from peer in school. This is because they want have a sense of belonging. The paper has analysed how school based mentoring can move a long way in improving the relationship. The paper also evaluated the kind of education that can help in fostering the good relationship between the parent and the children.
Hirst, Lois T. How to Develop a Good Parent Child Relationship. Fair Lawn, N.J: Jab Press, 2008. Sound recording.
McCue, Kathleen, and Ron Bonn. How to Help Children Through a Parent's Serious Illness: Supportive, Practical Advice from a Leading Child Life Specialist. New York: St. Martin's Griffin, 2011. Print.
Taylor, Jim. Positive Pushing: How to Raise a Successful and Happy Child. New York: Hyperion, 2012. Print.