Anger is an emotional feeling that can have diverse effects on an individual and those around if not managed effectively. Anger is a normal occurrence that defines the human nature of individuals. Anger is one of the leading causes of broken homes and families because of the consequences it is likely to have. Thesis: There are a number of things that may lead to anger, the most common being stress. As one goes through life, they encounter changes that come with lost of responsibilities, which may be to overwhelming for an individual to bear. Anger is a series of events that the author of ‘My problem with her anger’ has to deal with on a daily basis.
The author notes of how difficult it is to deal with a partner who is constantly angry at the fact that things have not been done the way she wanted them to be done. It is even more hurting when one tries to relieve his partner of the pressure yet she does not appreciate this. Whenever he tries to do this, the partner feels that he did not do it well or he would have done the other also. This he notes is because of the responsibilities that seem to overwhelm her since the birth of their first born. Empathizing with the wife, she decided to sacrifice many things just to be there for her and try help her with certain issues.
Despite all the sacrifices he makes, the wife has to find something to be angry. He has subsequently come to accept it the way it is realizing that he may not do much to change her. Just when a man thought that he was no being supportive to his wife, which may have lead to such anger, he realizes that even when he supports her, she still finds to be angry, if not at him, it will be the children or something else (pp 439). This is indeed a tough life yet most men have to persevere in such relationships. The author is not complaining about his wife but just points out her anger as one of the major challenges he has to face in marriage.
He is amazed at the fact that women have a very different perspective towards life. They tend to act in fear and base their thoughts so much on the future. This is contrary to men who will chose to face every challenge as it comes and forgets it once it is sorted. Ability to act is strength about men, which makes women feel that they do not care, or bother about anything. A man will resort to action rather than plan while a woman will resort to planning rather than act. This according to the author does not however make one partner more superior to the other; they are some of the features that God gave to the partners so that they can complement each other.
In conclusion, the author recognizes the fact that he loves his wife despite al the challenges that they go through. He recognizes the fact that his wife is not just angry for nothing and that he has to understand and keep up with her (pp 440). He recognizes the fact that his wife has more responsibilities in the house and it is his responsibility to ensure that he is not overwhelmed but that he is also happy. This cannot be done at the expense of her his happiness and satisfaction.
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