We all know what is the lie. Unfortunately, most of us lie from time to time. Very often people start lying in order to find their own weaknesses from others, to help someone else out of jam, or justify the wrong acts. There are a lot of situations when we have done something bad. Consequently, we feel that it can harm other’s feelings and cause unpleasant situation. Unfortunately, not everyone is courageous enough to admit this mistake and to take the responsibility for an act or fault. As a rule, people choose the royal road - they lie in hope that nobody will see the ugly part of their personality.
But the main problem is that any lie, sooner or later, becomes visible in the course of time and causes most serious troubles in comparison to the situation that provoked person to tell this lie. Thus, consequences could be the most unpredictable and person may lose the control of the situation. One more unpleasant feature of lie is its tightening, as a quicksand. In order to hide even more deeply one lie, it is necessary to think out two new lies and the like.
Very often people who lie loose peace of mind. Every minute they, consciously or not, wait for the moment when all will find out the truth. It always has a great impact on their behavior and health. Besides, every new invention takes no end of forces, which could be used in more useful course, for example, in creativity.
Once I engrossed in thoughts regarding the issue of lie. I was thinking about how much lie I have faced in my life and problems that it caused. And I was shocked. I have opened my eyes and understood that most of these problems were caused by me.
Now, I would like to share my bitter experience with you in order to warn you from unpleasant after-effects.
Hopefully, most of my stories about a lie that comes to my mind are connected with my childhood. And now I understand how it has affected my life.
On that day I got D on my report card. I was trying with all efforts to hide this fact from my parents as I knew that they will be angry at me. Well, firstly it did not look as a lie, just withholding information. Only when they asked me to show my report card, I told a lie and said that I lost it. This fact made my parents mad at me, but they decided not to punish me, but help to look for the report card.
We were searching everywhere, and of course it took forever, because they were never going to find it as I hid this in the best place possible. After a couple of hours, they finally gave up and blew a fuse. They started yelling at me. I could not stand it and told the truth about my unpremeditated lie and showed the report card. Once they see the mark they were furious at me, but the worst thing was, that my mother begun to cry as she was disappointed because of my lie. I was punished for one week. They told me that they have done this not because of the grade, but the lie and that I do not need to lie and hide my grades because I was afraid of being punished.
Now I clearly understand that if I had shown the report card, the scenario of this situation would have been completely different and much better, for sure. But at that time I did not realize it.
Another significant lie that I have told happened when I was 17. During that summer, I decided to earn some money and work, as I had a lot of free time. Once, I saw an appropriate advertisement. A young couple is looking for a babysitter for their four-year son. I enjoy helping people and I love children. Of course, I thought that it will be easy for me to do, despite the fact that I had not experience in babysitting before. I sent the résumé, telling that I have three years of experience in babysitting and attached fake feedbacks from my previous imaginary work givers. In a couple of days, I received the call and was invited to the interview. I successfully passed it and in one day after this I should look after their son for the whole day and it was horrible.
A boy was begging for a piece of chocolate and instead of proper dinner I gave him a bar of chocolate, despite parent’s request not to do this. I hope that they will never notice it. However, in a couple of hours’ child started to experience swelling of the face. His temperature rose up and he was crying all the time. Hopefully, his parents came back home shortly and they knew how to act in such cases. I told that he took it by himself, but at that moment it did not have the matter. Without any doubts, I was fired right away. I understood how serious this situation was and to what results in could lead.
Unfortunately, my lack of inexperience in this sphere played a law – dawn trick with me. I realized that my inessential lie could cost the life of the boy and it was unbearably. Since that time I have never ever lied in my résumé. I would better learn something new, even if it takes some time, rather than act rashly. After this, I understood that taking the wrong way is the easiest choice. At the time, these choices will seem like inconsequential one. However, most of them will have lasting and serious consequences. And very often we will receive tarnished image, not because of the lie, but the fact of concealment of the truth. Accordingly, we need to choose wisely and think twice before taking any actions.
Studying at secondary school, I got obsessed with one video game. My friend showed me this and from the very beginning, I spend a couple of hours in a day playing this game and soon I was playing it once I got home. I was not completing my home assignments during the long period of time.
I always have good relations with my mother. She believes me and when she asked me whether I finished the homework, I always told yes. One evening, she eventually came into my room and saw that I was playing a video game, but not studying. She was very angry at me, but the worst thing was that she told me that she will not trust me anymore. These words were very painful for me and I understood that with this behavior I done harm to the person, that I love the most in my life. Besides, I almost failed to end my trimester. Hopefully, I understood how serious situation was and I decided to do my homework firstly and play games later in order to change the situation at school and get back my mother’s trust.
Many years ago I supposed to have a friend named Vivienne. I was around 13 and she was at my age and on that day, we decided to meet at her home to watch a film. However, in the morning, I received the invitation to hang out together with one boy that we both liked. I did not want to offend her and because of this I lied. I told her that I feel myself bad and I would like to stay at home. Of course, I met with this boy and we went to the cinema. Unfortunately, Vivienne was also there. At that moment, I felt really bad and did not know what to do. She ignored me and I understood what an awful thing I have done.
This situation played a crucial role in our relations. She was angered at me and did not want to talk to me for a long period of time. In a couple of weeks, we did make up, but our friendship has never been the same as before.
As you can see, nothing destroys the relationship so quickly and radically, as a lie. It is very difficult to build good and long-term relations. Trust, love and patience are the main components for this. With one movement lie could destroy everything good that was between people. Once lie come to your life, it will definitely take away with herself the base of the relations - trust, which is so hard to obtain again.
Over the years, I have understood one fact. It is bad to lie not only from the ethics point of view, but also because of the fact that sooner or later it will always reveal and it will do harm to you and people around you. Therefore, it is necessary to try to be responsible for the words and acts that you have done. Even if something is wrong, we need to speak sincerely and honestly, without being afraid. After all, "a bitter truth is better than a sweet lie".
The main advantage of the honest people is that everyone could trust them and that they could be themselves. It is always difficult to develop positive traits of character, but real people try to develop it during the whole life. Usually, people, who are honest with others and with themselves easily could develop strong strength of will, and virile character. They are respected, everyone could count on them in different situations. It is very important to be the honest person, who keeps the word.
Therefore, I respect honest people and always try to be the same as well.