Greetings ladies and gentlemen
Divorce is here with us, and it is a sad reality that nowadays most relationships are ending up in divorce court. Over 15 million children in US have witnessed and experienced how marriages fall apart, and the reasons that lead to making a divorce decision. Divorce may be suitable to parents but adversely affect the lives of their children in one way or another. Statistics indicate that out of divorce cases in America, 40% of the children do not recover from the trauma. However, some children manage to cope with the situation and lead a happy life thereafter. In most cases, divorce results to suffering and different forms of damage, which adversely affect the lives of children. Among the points that I’m going to put across include the effects of divorce in shattering a child’s life, behavioral changes, and mistrust.
(a). Divorce and change in a child’s life.
Divorce makes the world of a child shatter; it changes the lives of children making them undergo difficult stages in their lives. Children undergo changes that make them feel the unfairness of divorce. These comprises of difficulties in changing schools, moving to other homes, changing their peers, and being separated from parts of their families. It takes a long time before children adapt to these changes. Some of them end up giving up, and the indications are on their performance in school and how they relate with their peers. Their poor performance shatters their academic prosperity. Some of them end up becoming criminals in search of means to survive.
(b) Divorce and behavioral change.
Most divorce cases are predetermined by a series of abusive languages, aggressiveness, and lack of respect, among others. Some parents act carelessly without the concerns that the children keep a watch on whatever is happening to their parents. Most of these children adapt to this lifestyle of aggressiveness, and this is revealed after the divorce. In attempts to cope with the new lifestyle that they get subject to; most of them end up adopting negative behaviors, which alter their lives. Some of these behavioral changes may include drug or alcohol use, involvement in dangerous sexual activities, aggressiveness, and crime.
(c) Divorce and lack of self esteem.
Fear and mistrust to commitments and relationships also result from a divorce. The children end up losing trust in any relationship from their peers or those considered as close. They hence end up living lonely lives. They often face difficulties in building relationships be it with their peers, teachers or guardians. They feel stigmatized by the society, and prefer to live their life without companions.
In conclusion, the response given by a child towards divorce, impacts on how he/she embraces the changes that accrue to the process. The consequences of divorce enhance the development of negative attitudes towards life in these three areas: firstly on its effects to lifestyle, secondly, on its effects on behavior and finally deprivation of self esteem.