Evaluation of Five Different Friends’ Behaviors
In life people are born on earth with different characteristics, so they act differently in our society. Some of those characteristics they get are unique and different from the one they get from their parents. Some of these as perceived to be positive and rest of the others as negative. However, at the end, each person is unique. Sometimes people do the things that according to them seem enjoyable, but it may bother others. On the other hand, some people think before doing something that may end up affecting their personality not matter the enormous impacts by the surrounded friends. Personality of an individual shows his/her relatively stable thoughts, feelings, and behavioral pattern. All individuals have unique personality characteristics, and understanding these characteristics provide helpful clues about how people act and feel in different situations .
Current narrative story of five friends is aimed to describe the unique characteristics of people and how they react in different situations. The unique properties of these friends show the perspective of how human beings behave in certain situations in their daily life. In order to understand and describe the unique behavior of human, I have chosen five friends having different background, and living in different places, but we often meet together to share our experiences and stories with each others.
We have something in common with each other for which we could build a good relationship, but there are some certain things personally I do not like at all. I took those as negative traits. However, my friends are amazing, caring and we understand each other. The things I do not like may be liked by others. On the other hand, I am not perfect and I often do things that make my friends feel uncomfortable. Although, I can understand the expectations of my friends, I just cannot control myself. To understand the advantages and limitations of human behavior, I am going to have to clarify the following point with an appropriate example: What behavior is expected?
This is a story of five friends who have different personality and characteristics, such as outgoing, reserved, task oriented people oriented, and supportive. Adam is a 21 years boy who has an outgoing and task oriented personality. As compared to his friend, John, who is more reserved, Adam seems always ready to drive in and go into a matter. In other words, Adam is among those people who engage their internal motor skill quickly. Adam, and John along with their three other friends, Mathew, Michael, and Neilson are inside an elevator and its doors are about to close. They have different feelings and actions at the situation when another person from outside is trying to get into the elevator. Adam, who is outgoing and task oriented, is in the hurry and feels it is inappropriate to wait for someone else while the elevator is about to move. On the other hand, John who is reserved and people oriented is always happy in many situations and waits patiently with a smile on his face. Another friend, Mathew also has an outgoing personality but people oriented characteristics. He holds the door open for the new comer and greets him. Mathew who has a reserved personality and task oriented behavior calculates the weight that the elevator will have to handle after another person comes into it. Finally, Neilson with its supportive personality tries to make room for the new comer.
It is worth noticing at this point that people behave differently in groups compare to when they are in isolation. It can be observed that group membership can have effects on individual decisions. In the case of five friends, the situation can be changed if reserved and task oriented friend forces along with his outgoing and task oriented friend to not allow another person into the elevator. Similarly, if these two friends are thinking individually to allow another person to come inside, other friends can force them to allow that person. Finally, group decision can affect individual behavior.
All type of personalities, discussed above and others, have tendencies of unusual behaviors if faced by some particular circumstances or unusual situations. It is important to consider that when a person shows an unusual or eccentric behavior, as well as, shows erratic thoughts or emotions for a long time, he is suffering from a personality disorder . Therefore, an unusual behavior related to any type of personality need careful attention at the initial stage. In the case of the five friends in elevator, the behavior of any of those can show unusual tendency. For instance, entry of another person can go beyond the limit of weight lifting capability of the elevator and also takes more time to start; the friend with reserved and task oriented personality can show unusual tendency by not allowing the entry of another one. According to trait approach of personality, individuals have complex personalities and possess broad dispositions .
Unusual behavior can develop due to various individual and primary reasons. In the case of five friends, an outgoing personality can find it difficult to express his thoughts, or a reserved friend can start talking suddenly or can become silly. These mood swings are mostly in the form of short periods of anger or rage, as well as, weak judgment about others or about situations. The situation can go worse if there is extreme sudden swing in personality of a reserved person or an outgoing person with work orientation trait. However, these unusual behaviors are related to some particular circumstances and can be prevented when environment or an unusual situation is changed. In short, we all control who we are and who we want to be and how our personality should reflect on our actions in our daily but should always seek for a positive balance within a group and be open to compromise when necessary.
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