Commitment is key to the lasting of a marriage. In most successful marriages, the level of commitment from the partners is high enough to shut down all the possible forces of separation. Often, couples confuse fidelity with commitment, a situation, which results in unhappy relationships. Numerous psychological explanations bordering on commitment dominate most discussions involving human relationship. Obviously, this article summarizes such explanations while making comparisons with the human genealogy and its overall influence in individuals’ resistance to temptation. However, there are two interesting points that stand out through the discussions evident in the article.
Firstly, it is interesting to note that some researchers believe that a person’s genes control his/her commitment in marriage. Controversially, the findings from some of the studies conducted from some of those researchers reveal that some individuals have more strength to resist temptation than others do. In essence, the question that arises when commitment and marriage stability are linked to genes is, “does it mean that those who have a high level of commitment have never experienced marriage instability among their relatives?” On the other hand, there exist differences in the levels of commitment when measured by the ability of women as opposed to men in resisting temptation. Preferentially, women are considered weak in resisting temptation when attractive men confront them. Thus, it is interesting to note that the article purports to support the notion that there is such a thing as a “commitment gene”
Secondly, the article reveals that the level of engagement among couples more or less likely influences commitment. In one of the studies mentioned in the article, it is evident that the level of commitment increases among couples when they perform tasks together. On the contrary, those individuals who tend to performs tasks without involving their marriage partners are faced with marriage challenges bordering on lack of enough commitment. Looking at such scenarios, it is evident that commitment is more of a behavioral trait, which can grow when there is a high level of self-expansion. As such, it is interesting because the common view one gets from this scenario is that commitment is a matter of choice.
In conclusion, commitment is to each other among couples is pertinent for a happy marriage. Regardless of how commitment is built in individuals, its exercise in marriage is necessary. Therefore, couples should choose to commit to each other at all times to ensure that their marriages remain stable.
PARKER-POPE, TARA. "The Science of a happy Marriage." New York Times, 10 May 2010. Web. <well.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/05/10/tracking-the-science-of-commitment/?_php=true&_type=blogs&_php=true&_type=blogs&_r=1>.